ed. note: I am off gettin’ married, celebratin’ and spending time with my family and friends, so I hope you enjoy all my awesome guest posts. Today you’re hearing from Erika at MCM Mama Runs on five steps to recovering from post “big day” blues. Thanks, Erika!
The “Big Day”. The “A” Race. Graduation.
You’ve spent the last days, weeks, months working towards this day. You’ve picked out flowers or run mile repeats or gotten up crazy early to bike before work. Everything has revolved around getting to this day.
And now, it’s over.
Instead of a goal, it’s a memory. Hopefully, some of the awesomest memories of your life, but still, just a memory.
Chances are you are feeling a bit let down and blue. It doesn’t matter if the big thing was your wedding, running a crazy number of races, or the end of the school year, your reaction is likely to be the same: post event blues.
Here are 5 steps to survive the funk and move forward.
1. Expect it and accept it. Know that the letdown is likely to happen and don’t beat yourself up over it. It’s ok to be sad that the big day is over and to feel a bit lost without a goal staring you in the face. Embrace the sad and be gentle with yourself.
2. Take it easy for a couple of weeks. Your mind or body (or both) has likely been working overtime for the last while. Enjoy having some of your free time back. Don’t feel the need to immediately try and get every aspect of your life back in order. (What? We all know that some areas had to slide while you pursuing your goal…)
3. Revel in your accomplishment. Look at pictures from the event, especially those taken by family and friends. Write about it in your journal or on your blog. Figure out a way to incorporate your big event into your home: preserve your flowers, frame your certificate or diploma, hang your race medal(s). Be proud of what you accomplished and enjoy the afterglow.
4. Spend some casual time with friends or do something you enjoy. Chances are you haven’t read a book for pleasure in a while or gone on that “pace and distance don’t matter” run that you used to love. Do that now. Remind yourself what you enjoyed before the goal or event became the focus of your life.
5. Find a new focus or new goal. Starting to feel ready to move forward again? Jump on it and find a new goal. It doesn’t have to be a huge goal and it doesn’t have to be related in any way to what you just accomplished. (mine right now is to paint the bathroom. Exciting goal, huh?)
And if all else fails, grab some friends and go for a run. Friends + Endorphins = a much better mood.
Erika, the mom behind the blog MCM Mama Runs, first began running to combat postpartum depression. What started as a few times a week, 30 minute commitment soon led to a half marathon and then her first full marathon. 2 full marathons, 34 half marathons, and a ton of other races later, Erika is well on her way to running a race in all 50 states. Join her on her blog where she talks about training and racing while trying to balance work, kids, pets, and her love of craft beer.
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