Recently, I was walking down P Street NW, near the Logan Circle Whole Foods and was reminded of a few years back, before I lived in the District, when I accidentally stumbled upon the Whole Foods while driving once. The neighborhood was so foreign to me then and now it looks completely different. The actual streetscape hasn’t changed (yes, there are some new restaurants, but basically it’s the same) — what has changed is my perspective. It is so interesting that the lenses through which you view something can completely change the picture you see. For a long time, I wanted so badly to be in a relationship. It was a quiet longing — I was never completely vocal about it, but it was always there. Then, after my ex and I broke up, my perspective changed. I no longer wanted or needed to be in a relationship. I focused on myself and on my relationship with God.
And of course, while I was doing that, I met a wonderful man. Suffice to say that once my perspective on what I needed changed, I got exactly what I wanted. Like I said before, this isn’t a relationship blog, but I can’t help but spend a little bit of time explaining exactly how this time and this man are different. The first (and most important) thing is that we share our faith. I truly can’t say enough how amazing this is. It really is a game changer to be dating someone who is on your same level in that area.
Then there is his personality. He is the most genuinely kind man I’ve ever met (outside of the most important man in my life, my dad of course!). This translates into all kinds of good stuff. It’s the kind of good stuff that should be standard, but I’ve learned the hard way that it isn’t. He brings out the best in me. It’s really that simple.
I think that’s enough ridiculous gushing, but I just wanted to share my happiness with all ten of you that read this 🙂 I have always hated dating advice that says things like “when you stop looking, you will find him/her/it,” so I won’t say that. I will say that once I committed to stop trying to do things (not just dating) my way and just sort of trusted in my faith and in God, things started happening.