The first look. It’s a subject that people have lots of opinions on and will tell you that you HAVE to do or you ABSOLUTELY SHOULD NOT do. As with most of the wedding advice I received, I smiled, nodded and then thought about it and decided what made sense for K and I. I can’t tell you whether or not you should do a first look (nor can anyone else) but I can tell you why we decided to do so.
One of the main reasons I wanted to do a first look is because I wanted to have a private moment with K and I. Our bridal party and my parents were nearby, but we had a few minutes just to take in each other’s presence and prepare for what was to come. It didn’t make me feel any less emotional walking down the aisle and K agrees. Having that time together (even just a few minutes) put me in the right frame of mind and I just continued to get more and more excited for the day.
Another huge reason I wanted to do a first look is that I wanted to take pictures with the bridal party before the wedding and not have to worry about keeping K and I separate. While it is definitely possible to do this, we had time with our respective gals and guys taking pictures and having fun and not having to worry about hiding me from K’s view. I highly recommend taking as many pictures as possible before the ceremony. Even with our first look pictures, we took so many family shots (and then some private shots with just K, the photographer and I) that we completely missed cocktail hour. We expected that we were going to miss it, but I can’t imagine not having taken those photos before hand. It would’ve put the whole evening off schedule.
As I mentioned, I also saw my parents beforehand and that really helped calm my nerves. I can’t say if a first look is right for you, but I wouldn’t have done it any other way and I’m so glad we did one!
If you’re married, did you do a first look? Why or why not?